One of the fun things about being engaged is getting all the hearty congratulations from friends and family. You get to smile, tell the story, flash the ring and enjoy a few moments of being really happy about something really awesome.
In the midst of all these warm wishes and congratulations, I’ve been reminded a tiny bit of wedding etiquette I first learned from Emily Gilmore of Gilmore Girls fame:
“You say ‘best wishes’ to the bride and ‘congratulations’ to the groom,” said the TV queen of proper etiquette.
Turns out it’s true. What I didn’t know was why. After several proper Virginia gentleman wished me best wishes, I finally asked.
Apparently aying, “Congratulations,” to the bride-to-be implies that I caught my man like a butterfly in a net (which Fiance claims is accurate). “Best wishes” conveys a more ladylike scenario.
That said, I’ll take anything lovely — best wishes, congratulations, good on ya or a hearty huzzah!